Many of you had the wonderful privilege of reading my daughter’s blog last week. If not, I’m sharing it below so you can see.
This week I want to share some of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned through our journey together. Each day will build on the next so I hope you will be able to follow along.
Lesson 1: Telling Daddy
My heart pounded through my chest the afternoon we sat as a family in our living room. Tori and her boyfriend were about to tell my husband the news of our new grand baby. We were all nervous and I felt so sad for my husband because he had no idea what was about to happen. I had the experience a few days before around the breakfast table with Tori and my mom. My sweet daughter told me she was having a baby. Hearing unexpected news is like a punch in the stomach. It takes the wind out of you. The world seems to stop for several minutes and then out of nowhere you breathe again. In moments like these your emotions ping like a pinball in a machine bouncing from shock, sadness, it’s okay, God is in control, compassion, what do we do, what will people say, I hope my daughter is okay?! Your mind races wildly.
Tori and Jordan told Rick. We all watched as he tried to process the punch. It was painful to see but I was so proud of him. He remained calm and silent. He displayed amazing self-control deciding what to say and choosing appropriate words. After the unforgettable moment, the family went back to what they were doing, my husband did one of the wisest things I’ve ever seen a person do. He went straight to his phone and called a dear church friend who walked this same mile. Rick told our friend the news and then humbly said, “What do I do?”
His friend spoke my husband’s language. “Rick, you’re the short stop. You have a dynamite second baseman. You are playing an important game. The pitch is thrown. Batter swings. Ball is hit straight to second base. Second baseman drops the ball. The play is ruined. What do you do?” Rick replied, “You pick up the second baseman. Tell him everything is okay, to keep his head in the game. Reassure him we will get the next one.” His friend gently and lovingly responded, “Your daughter is an amazing second baseman. She dropped the ball on one play. Pick her up. Support her. Encourage her. Walk by her side every step of the way.”
My husband hung up the phone, walked straight to me and said, “Steph, what’s happened has happened. They made a mistake. We’ve made millions. We are going to love them, support them, and be by their side every step of the way.” From that moment on, that is exactly what we’ve done.
People make mistakes. We all make millions. How we respond demonstrates who Jesus really is to us. We can kick people when they are down. We can judge. We can leave them stranded on their own. We can choose love. We can encourage. We can support. We can walk the tough rode with people.
I am so thankful for our dear church friend. I invite you to take a look at the ones you love. Who needs your support? Who needs your encouragement? Who needs someone by their side? Decide today to love. Show them who Jesus really is to you.